I BOUGHT A HOUSE
The secret growing of lessons held close
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I bought a house and
I bought a house and
I bought a house and
I bought a house and I can feel myself want to have the whole vision, values, and story laid out for public consumption. I want to have ready for you the perfect PDF called How to Buy a House : for queers with no 9-5 and no generational wealth and no partner and should be dead from alcoholism and owe the IRS tens of thousands of dollars
For most of my career I do not share the thing until I know a lot about the thing. This comes up when I teach and students ask - how do I know when I am ready to share writing about grief, death, change, a breakup, etc?
I think this answer is specific to the writer, to the griever, but I also don’t think every life event needs to be turned into a lesson as soon as it is known, or ever.
I hesitated to share this triumph, and while I knew I would eventually, I shared it sooner than I had anticipated. I shared it because I have brought my readers and students and friends along on this specific journey for the past few years, and I wanted to celebrate it.
My fear of abandonment was set aside just long enough for one social media post, and it seems that no one I love wanted to quit me in fact they seem ready to visit, ready to commit to their own journey of home buying, ready to push past their own edges.
I look forward to sharing every little nook and cranny and all the ways this place will inevitably transform me and everyone who comes through its doors.
This will take time, this will be slow, and this will be off the screen. I have nothing to prove to others, I am allowed the luxury of learning alone.
11 months ago I was being babysat by my chosen family doing everything in my power to stay alive, certain I was to either drink or die. Today I am on the right meds, the right herbs, the right rituals, the middle path, surrounded by snow, sitting next to my beautiful dog, in a house I own. Safe in my own mind, grateful, and ready to be of maximum service to myself, community, and the work ahead.
As my Swedish ancestor Hilma af Klint calls it, The Secret Growing is upon us
I bought a house!
I look forward to learning about all of the plants, buying a house in the Fall in Michigan is so special because everything has fallen or gone to sleep for winter. Pat, who owned the house for 23 years before Molly who I bought it from, made a beautiful map of the property. Mulberries, sugar maples, rose bushes, raspberries, white pines, and so much more
This guide to moving beyond Land Acknowledgements and creating an action plan of devotion is something I have referred to as a white person on stolen land and look forward to expanding my own plans and commitments, especially as a home owner - highly recommend to anyone looking to strengthen their values around stewardship of place, or just looking to tighten your integrity around work, money, etc
Land taxes, mindful attendance at local Pow Wow’s, supporting Indigenous artists work and events at the library and other public spaces, wealth redistribution, and more continue to be part of my practice alongside scholarships for all BIPOC students in A Quilt is Something Human, no cost future residencies, and more
Ten Years of Have Company
I have been lighting a candle on the altar for Britney Griner and for the people of Iran - both bring up some hopelessness for me and in all of the action action action of it all it is important for me to bring actual feeling and care to my prayer practice - feeling angry and sad at the hearth
edit : i originally shared a post about death sentences in Iran that was noted as fake news, here is a new post to pay attention to
I enjoyed listening to Bear Hebert on Nicole Antoinette’s podcast - specifically about the ease of renting and how home ownership is not everyone’s goal
I want to tell you about the best show ever for Michigan friends but it is sold out - Izzy says DM them to get on the waitlist
A Quilt is Something Human is in full swing and my students are so amazing! Watching them research and create quilts based off their own ancestors is a miracle in action -
In two days I get to see my best friend sing her songs and if you are in Detroit or the following cities you should go
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